Posted: 1 December, 2014 by Sohan Judge

21 Cheaters Reveal Why They Cheat

“I need variety.”

Tags: relationship, cheat, cheater, break up, boyfriend, girlfriend, marriage, divorce

21 cheaters have anonymously explained why they decided to cheat on their SO’s.


1. Because we’ve stopped having sex.

We’ve talked about it a lot and there doesn’t seem to be any resolution in sight. It’s pretty rough cause nothing else is really wrong. I’m hoping to think of a better solution but reaching the end of my patience.

2. Because I’m a sociopath.

It’s tough for me to stay interested after a few months. I have never started a relationship with someone because I was genuinely interested in them. There was always a need I wanted fulfilled at the time and they fit the bill. 

3. Because I thought I was bored.

Because I thought there might be something better. Because I thought I could get away with it. Wrong, wrong, and seriously wrong.

4. Because she had sexual issues.

I really loved my girlfriend at the time, but she had sexual issues and I had sexual needs. Selfish? Yeah, probably. The funny part is she found out and actually didn’t mind because she couldn’t fulfill my needs in that area but we fulfilled every other of each other’s needs. So she said go ahead, but be safe and don’t let her know about it. I only felt guilty after we had that talk. So I never did it again.

5. Because I was addicted to drama.

My ex and I used to cheat on each other like it was a game. Super awesome highs and god awful lows with lots of sex in between. It was like we were addicted to each and the drama. I had sex with more guys when I was with him then I did the entire time I’ve been single.

6. Because I was too weak to let her go.

I cheat because even though I’m tired of her crap, I still find myself attached to her. I guess I still see her as mine, and it would be painful to know other guys are banging her if I let her go. But at the same time I don’t feel any loyalty to her. I’m waiting to find another girl to form a relationship with before I dump her, so that I can make the process of dumping her less painful for myself. I guess I just don’t want to be alone.

7. Because It makes her happy.

It’s better for everyone in the relationship, it makes both parties happier, because I’m doing my own thing and she’s happier cause she doesn’t know and gets the relationship she’s always dreamed of.

8. Because I couldn’t handle her mental illness.

Was married to a woman with a rapidly degrading mental condition (schizophrenia and Bipolar with bouts of psychosis/fugue states) and met a woman who was married to someone who turned out to be a deeply closeted gay guy. Long story made short, we tumbled into bed late one night at a work conference, had an amazing time, woke up the next morning and I told her, “I really don’t want to ever wake up next to anyone who isn’t you.” She replied, “I’m all in”. 4 weeks later she moved from Kentucky to Florida, she had filed for divorce and so had I. I proposed the day my divorce finalized. 11 years, two kids later, we are happy as clams and our sex drive is perfectly matched. Will never cheat again as I have no reason to.

9. Because I thought I wanted someone more exciting.

I cheated on my beautiful, loving and caring girlfriend for someone more exciting. I decided to break things off with my girlfriend – stupid I know – but quickly realised I made the wrong decision and proposed to her. We’ve now been happily married for four years with no infidelity issues on my part. And I know every day that I made the right decision.

10. Because he was disgusting.

He said he’d kill himself if I ever left him and I was naive. He’d badger me for sex multiple times a day, every day, and kept insisting until I just laid there motionless while he did his thing just so he’d stop the emotional blackmail (“If you don’t want to have sex with me is because you don’t love me and I don’t have a reason to live anymore”). 

11. Because we had different sex drives.

Differences in sex drives are a huge, huge issue. And I found that out the hard way. My husband ended up having an affair because we weren’t having enough sex. It ruined the marriage and we divorced. There were other problems, sure. But we were not sexually compatible and I was young and didn’t realize how important that is.

12. Because I was addicted to drugs.

A guy offered to have a friends with benefits situation where if I helped him out, he’d help me out. It was great sex at first because he was so intent on pleasing me in every way possible. Turns out he was married with 4 kids and another on the way- which I knew at the time, but didn’t care about because of how addicted to drugs I was (which he could easily attain and gave to me for free). He talked me into having a threesome. His wife found out and hates me (I’m not even sure if they're still together). I have no excuse for my behaviour.

13. Because he was too passive.

He got lazy. Not physically but emotionally. We have a nine month old. I know it’s not perfect but I come home from work he’s watching some show he comes home he’s watching some show. I tried to stay far away from the guy I'm cheating with now because I love my SO but I’m an emotional person and if someone is willing to open up with me and accept this damn post pregnant body I’m sorry I let them. I enjoy feeling like someone’s prize. 

14. Because of the distance.

My girlfriend or whatever we are now moved across the country a few months ago. Despite our phone conversations, I’ve been pretty lonely. In the meantime, a very close girl friend of mine has been having troubles with her bf. I’ve known her for years and we have always had a connection but both of us were always in other relationships so we’ve remained close friends. Several nights ago we both got drunk and had (great) sex. I felt so guilty about it the next day, though. I told my girlfriend I wanted to break up, but made up excuses as to why. We still talk but the other girl is sticking around and saying she wants to break up with her bf for me. This ordeal is giving me some serious mixed feelings.

15. Because I’m not a relationship person.

I have cheated on almost all of my boyfriends/girlfriends, and I would have to say it just boils down to selfishness. I love the idea of having a relationship, but as soon as I get one I get bored and want out. Then, since I’m terrible at break ups, I cheat. Over and over again. It’s terrible, but I thrive on the attention others give me and I use it. 

16. Because I’m helping her make a smooth transition out of he relationship.

I’m currently the ‘other guy’ in a cheater relationship. He completely neglects her at best, has smacked her around several times. The ONLY reason she still lives there is her kids. We’ve been friends for a few years, and dated briefly last year when she left him, but went back because he was threatening to take the kids away. We’ve been dating again since November.

17. Because she wasn’t named Kayla?

Cheated on her with two different girls named Kayla. Ended up dating a complete different girl named Kayla after we broke up. I guess I like people named Kayla.

18. Because I’m just immature.

The simple truth of it is, I’m selfish, I’m scared to feel anything ‘real’ and I’m still a child at heart.

19. Because I need variety.

I don’t know, guess you can only eat so many green m&ms before you just want to bang a red one…

20. Because pessimism.

Because I know I’ll probably end up alone in the end either way.

21. Because I was an idiot.

I would have girls come up to me and tell me they wanted me so I let it all go to my head. I would have up to five steady girlfriends at a time. It all bit me in the ass because I wanted a fiery girl that wasn’t as “dumb” as the girls I had been fooling so I ended up marrying an ass of a girl who ruined my life.

Tags: relationship, cheat, cheater, break up, boyfriend, girlfriend, marriage, divorce

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